New relationship energy, or NRE, is that crazy rush of endorphins and happy happy joy joy feelings you experience when you first starting dating a new love. It’s when the birds are singing, the flowers blooming, and your world is nothing but kittens, bunnies, and rainbows.
Basically, it’s the time when people look at you in absolute disgust and horror as you and your new love make goo goo eyes at each other.
I’ve been seeing a lovely person for about a month. They’re (note: it is very rare that I will use gender neutral pronouns when talking about lovers), nice, smart, cute, good kisser, seems to like me, and enjoyable to be around.
So why am I not feeling the NRE?
I’ve been pondering this question for a couple of days now. Typically, a month into dating, I cannot get enough of being around my new love interest. I want to text or email (a sista will not talk on the phone, but that’s a post for another time) all the time. I have been known to stay up ‘til 3am fuckin’ my brains out knowing damn well I have to be up at 6am to get to work. It’s not that I’m completely lacking emotions for the new person. I enjoy the time we spend together. It’s…I can’t quite put my finger on what the issue might be.
What say you all? Even though you like them, have you ever not experience NRE even though you like the person you have just started dating?